To Write Your Wedding Vows, Or Not?

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“So this I am sure – you are my partner, my lover, my very best friend. My heart beats for you. On this day, the day of our wedding I promise you this: I promise to lay my heart in the palm of your hands – I promise you me.”

Quote from the television show, Grey’s Anatomy

Writing your own wedding vows has become popular through the example of romance movies and television programs. It appeals to every romantic soul…to come up with those lines which are deep and earnest, written only for your beloved, but to be declared amongst many witnesses.

There is no argument that writing one’s own wedding vows is romantic. It takes a lot of thought, and a lot of heart searching. One need not be an author, but merely have the ability to say what is in their heart, expressing feelings, hopes, and commitment with a language born in honesty and love.

The writing of one’s own wedding vows is not merely a way to be different from the rest, although individuality is desirable. It is a starry-eyed gesture, but expressing love is not of sole importance. Wedding vows are also for pledging each person’s responsibility to maintain the relationship. Modern vows often sidestep references to a lifetime commitment, but it is a prime dynamic of any marriage. Too many things in this world are disposable, and marriage should not be one of them. The traditional vows include sentiments such as ‘for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health’. These words are not simply to fill in some time, but are an undertaking between the two to work at creating an enduring, husband and wife partnership.

In the deciding whether to use personal or traditional vows, consider the following:

– The process should be rewarding and not create undue stress.

– Are both the bride and groom eager and agreeable to writing their own vows? Misplaced obligation can create a lack of fulfillment and resentment.

– Is tradition important?

– Are there elements of the traditional vows that you want to honour in your own vows?

Once decided that writing your own vows is the way to go, the most challenging time has come – to actually put pen to paper and lay out all those thoughts in a logical declaration of love and fidelity.

The vows can be simple or elaborate, but should never be too long. If the right wording proves elusive, inspiration abounds on the internet. Try a search on ‘original wedding vows’. There is even a website designed to teach people how to write their own special vows.

The style of vow is another facet. Poems are universally popular, but a poorly executed verse may sound cheesy. Are quotes to be included? Romantic poetry, lines from movies, or snippets of the traditional mixed in with your own words. Is it entirely romantic, or spiced up with a drop of humour? There are many choices.

The vows should include statements of commitment and love, imbued throughout with the writer’s personality. This mix ensures your vows will be as individual as you want to make them.

One final consideration in the process is whether the vows are to be read, memorized, or prompted by the officiator. Long vows are more difficult to commit to memory and may sound rehearsed. On the other hand, reading from a sheet of paper held in front of your face deprives you from staring with adoration into your bride or groom’s eyes. Whichever method of delivery you choose, the celebrant or minister must have a copy so they can provide a whispered prompt if needed.

Wedding vows are a significant beginning to two lives becoming as one. They are worth spending time on perfecting.

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Alec Squires
Alec Squires
2023-03-12
Wendi did our wedding in Feb 2023!! I have to say it was above and beyond!! Not only did she do our wedding and organize everything but she gave us all the GO TO places on the Island so we can have an amazing trip. She made my wife and I feel like family!! She was very detailed in her work and made sure everything flowed perfectly! I’d score her a 18/10! Highly recommend her and her team for services. It is worth every penny! Thank you Wendi for everything and making our special day magical!! We will always consider you a close friend! Your always welcome here in Colorado! Keep rocking it!! Stay strong! ~ The Squires Family
Nicole Goetz
Nicole Goetz
2023-03-11
Wendi and her team did a beautiful job for our wedding!! The ceremony and reception were perfect. Wendi herself was an amazing person to work with and a joy to get to know throughout the process. She made us feel like family from beginning to end of our trip.
Alicia Wassen
Alicia Wassen
2023-03-05
I have been trying to figure out how to say WE LOVE WENDY without just straight up saying it… she was absolutely amazing! We live in Minnesota, and didn’t not have one single worry about our wedding. We knew it would be great, because of Wendy. She listens to what you want and how you want it. She took so much time out of her days to call me or message me to make sure I was okay with what she was thinking. Everything on our special day was perfect! And her husband, Martin, doing the photography… just as amazing! Our photos came back so quickly! They both made sure I knew it was OUR DAY and what we wanted was what happened. I highly recommend using them for both wedding planning and photography! Love love love them! And I miss them already… I will be visiting them every year from here on out 😆 Thank you Wendy and Martin for everything you did for us! You made our day so beautiful and so special. We will never forget all you did for us!
Jennifer Bjork
Jennifer Bjork
2023-02-21
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Jeffrey Whitson
Jeffrey Whitson
2023-01-27
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Rachel Stanforth
Rachel Stanforth
2023-01-18
Wendi put together a very beautiful wedding for us and our family with only two months to plan! She took care of so many different aspects of the wedding process that relieved me of so much stress. I'm not from SPI, so her recommendations and know-how were invaluable to us in the wedding planning process and everything at ceremony was beautiful and tastefully done. If you are planning a wedding, I would definently recommend Wendi!!
Evangelina Avila
Evangelina Avila
2022-07-19
Wendi was the most amazing wedding planner. I didn't have to anything she had everything ready for my wedding. Decorations were amazing and the wedding was perfect just like I wanted.
Shaiann Sanchez
Shaiann Sanchez
2022-05-26
My wedding with Wendi was the Marry me on the Sea package & it was amazing!!! We almost had to cancel it because of rough seas in the morning but somehow Wendi & God pulled through & gave us the best wedding of my dreams!! Thanks so much!!!!
Antoinette Gan
Antoinette Gan
2022-05-13
We got Wendi’s “sweet and simple” beach ceremony package, a service that I believe she no longer does. However, my husband and I could not be more pleased with the services Wendi provided. Wendi is incredibly organized and communicative and her ceremony decorations were beautifully elegant and tasteful. Robyn, was a wonderful officiant, crafting a special and personal ceremony just for us. Additionally, we absolutely adore the photos taken by Martin. Anyone looking to have a wedding in South Padre Island should look no further than Weddings by Wendi!
Alyssa Bonfiglio
Alyssa Bonfiglio
2022-01-12
Wendi was absolutely amazing. My husband and I planned a last minute elopement with only 2 months to spare. Wendi was confident she could make it happen and knew exactly what we wanted. I'm not from the area so I had no idea where to begin. She has great knowledge of the island and knew where an when the perfect place to make our dreams come true! Anytime I called or text she was readily available to me and always very welcoming. I couldn't have done it without her, she really handled everything! The decor was gorgeous and she handmade my bouquet which was such a wonderful surprise. So grateful for you Wendi thank you!